The Binding Factors!
In this article, we look at what makes everything stick in becoming what you want to be!
The Binding Factors - What makes everything stick
Welcome to probably one of the most important pages on this website. In the various articles on my website, we talk about how to improve your life. One of my main focuses is to teach other people to take control of subjective experience, (what happens in your head) so that you can shape objective experience (what happens in your life). If you adopt these "agents of change" and apply them into your life, you will invariably notice a significant shift in your life and everything in it but in this article, we will explore the Binding Factors that make everything work, the Glue that holds everything together. Picture these things as the needed ingredients to a recipe, without which the desired result just simply isn't as good.
Genuineness My philosophy on bettering your life, which I share with many other self development authorities, is that you must first begin with bettering the world in which you live on the inside. Attempting to make life circumstances truly the way you want them to be, starting from the outside and working your way in, simply will not work. For Example: A get rich quick scheme, a "strategy" by which to increase happiness, wealth, success and emotional control, or medication to help you feel differently. These things begin from the outside, in hopes to satisfy or better a feeling on the inside. All of which will not require you to become genuine. By Genuine, I simply mean that you are cordial, sincere and that when people look at the "way you are" on the outside, it is also the way you are on the inside. A genuine person stomps on the fire of the EGO that tries to ruin relationships, he/she knows the significance of contribution and kindness to other human beings and is an "agent of good" which to me means a person who is in touch with their true self, and as a result, good deeds, gestures, positive actions and pro activity flows out of them. In order for change to happen in your life, you must start loving other human beings. You must start to truly have a passion to get along with other people. You must be genuinely interested in listening when engaged in a conversation with someone, instead of waiting for your turn to talk and you must work for, and be with, the good of all things.
Get Real With Yourself, Start the Process of Liberation The real you, the you inside of you that often times you neglect, is truly who you really are. Make sense? Ha! Here is what I mean. Because of the way the world is, the negativity that surrounds us, and the sometimes inevitable less than good experiences we are exposed to, we sometimes can get Disconnected from ourselves. How many of you feel right now, or at one point in your life, completely disconnected from who you truly are? There is something inside of you who knows that you want to give, you want to love, you want to be kind to other people and you don't want to be in a negative place, but for a lot of people, FEAR and BELIEFS keep you there. Well my friends, one of the first steps of change is to see things in a different light. To give up those old beliefs that "the world is out to get you," or "people just don't like you," or even "I am not a likeable person," whatever your belief may be. Question that belief, write it down on paper and try to prove it wrong because you see, your beliefs are governing your very actions without you even being aware of it and as long as you believe negative things about the world, about yourself and about other people, you WILL work towards proving your own philosophies right; which really equates to your dominant and most accepted core beliefs only allowing you to notice that which reflects them. (like-life-experiences) Find yourself again, the true you and you will find that the real you is not in a negative place, you are not hated, nor do you have hatred against other people, but you are essentially one with peace. Once you accept that, get some real time with yourself, and begin to see that which you really are, you begin the process of liberation.
Disconnect from Negative, disempowering thoughts. Negativity - A mental process which governs feelings, actions and life results, often created by the conscious minds inability to interpret objective experience in a resourceful way. That basically means that negativity comes from your own brain. It's how you look at things, it's what things mean to you. Objective experience is what happens on the outside, your circumstances and the world that surrounds you. What you do with that incoming sensory data determines the world in which you live on the inside (subjective experience). Because of the experiences you have had in your life, the way you were raised, the environment that surrounds you, you often times have "incoming data filters," that control the way you interpret a certain situation. For example: A man who worked a mediocre job for 5 years, never really saving any money finally decides he's going to quit but before he can do so, his boss fires him due to his decrease in performance and bad attitude. This situation can leave a man paralyzed, depending on what he does with that information in his mind. He can choose to feel used, beaten, taken advantage of, wronged and so on. What kinds of actions do you think this man will take towards finding work? Haphazard actions. He will not tap his true potential, he will not represent the situation in his mind in a positive kind of way and as a result, he probably will make no progress. He will be filled with negative thoughts about the whole situation, which will restrict his outward maneuverability and will PROVE his new belief that "life sucks and then you die,"the world is out to get me," "I'm fated to lose." Or, with that information, (You are fired) he can choose to give it a new meaning, a more empowering meaning. For example: This is an opportunity for me to A. Go back to school. B. Learn a different Trade. C. Find other employment that compensates me more! or D. Test my true power, my true potential and really see what I am capable of. You see, the biggest mistake that people make is that they truly believe they know what the world is. They have a predetermined MAP of reality (The Map is not the Territory, NLP) and some people's maps are filled with limiting beliefs and negativity. Choose to look at any situation for what you can learn from it, what you can do as a result of it and how it can benefit you and if in your mind, lives a world of negative thoughts, you must retrain your mind to shift it's focus.
This is the glue that makes everything stick. It is the foundation by which change is realized. It is the change that makes the difference and it is the essence of self improvement, self dev elopement, change, success, happiness and peace. Thank you so much for reading. I want you to try something. For the next week of your life, think about the words written on this article. Print it out if you have to and hold it in your awareness. Think about it at least 3 times a day and put forth effort to restructure yourself to create these Binding Factors. Then, you are ready to take control.