Your Reality is what you Believe
In this post, the we talk about reality and how beliefs influence us to determine truths in our lives, whether they are actually true or not!
Reality is What you Believe - Choose your Beliefs!
What is reality? Well, it can be defined as the actual things that exist as static truths in our world. But let's think about something for a second. Why do some people truly believe that life is just the roll of the dice, while others have a strong conviction that they are guided, and that they themselves in taking consistent and intelligent action, shape their lives completely? What is the difference between the two and why does the one who believes that he/she controls their reality invariably end up creating better life results? Is this a coincidence? We hear a lot about "create your own reality," today, more so than we did yesterday, so why are people saying it, teaching it, and actually living it if it isn't real? Good question, I set out to answer this question in the beginning of my journey in personal development.
To understand your reality, or what reality really is, you have to understand the human brain, how you are conditioned (programmed) and how we work at this stage in our evolution. Throughout our lives, we are shown things, told things, and we experience things repeatedly until they become literally embedded in our nervous systems. Have you ever talked to someone that used language like this "No, I'm just not good at that," or "I always BLANK" in that situation? I'm sure you have! Have you ever talked to that person, maybe personally? Really personally? DO YOU DO THAT? I did at one point, until I started reading about the human brain, mental conditioning and the actual power of firm belief.
You see, a Post Hypnotic Suggestion is something that a hypnotist deploys in sessions with clients. The idea is to give a suggestion, or idea, or new behavior to a person, in their minds, in such a way that it actually starts to manifest in their lives. For example: If you had me in an altered state of consciousness and you were suggesting to me some ideas that can help me to change my life or my behavior in a profound and beneficial way (Hypnosis), and the suggestion was that I was an incredible conversationalist, because of the receptive state my brain would be in from a great amount of relaxation and controlled focus, that idea would install itself into my mind and I would subsequently carry that idea out; I would become a great conversationalist. The same process takes place when you either experience something over and over again (being in bad communication situations where maybe you say something that makes you look like a duntz!), are told something over and over again (a parent tells their child that they are such a messy person) or you unconsciously (without really thinking about it) tell yourself, in your mind that you could never be successful because it takes to much, successful people just luck out and that you don't have it in you to do extraordinary things.
This is conditioning. This is human Neurological Programming and this is how a belief is created. Beliefs are the energies that can either catapult you to great successes in your life or leave you drowning in negative experiences, it all depends on your core beliefs.
So, what I've found is that reality for me is exactly what I believe it to be. My beliefs direct my behaviors, they direct my actions and those things control my results. This is one of the most important things you can take in and BELIEVE in your life. So many people, people who in my opinion may have a distorted view, actually believe what they tell themselves, about themselves, and their lives. I hear people all of the time say things like "I was never good at writing," or "I can't run at this point, I couldn't take it," or "I'm not that lucky," or "Good things never happen to me," or even "this kind of thing always happens," and the great limiters, "I haven't gone to college, I can't be successful," or "I don't have what it takes to start a business, most businesses fail after the first year," and people even say, (which this article is all about), "that's not reality, I live in reality.. the reality is" and things of that nature.
Do you see the pattern? This is a classic example of people being controlled and programmed by their environments, creating beliefs unconsciously as a result, and then living to make them true. We all know the whole self fulfilling prophecy thing with beliefs right? Whatever a person truly believes, they actually work to make it true. Sound familiar? A bit similar to a post hypnotic suggestion? It is that! The point is, the reality is, that human beings do implant beliefs in their minds and then like a law, every time, that is the "reality" they experience. We gotta get this! We have to understand that sometimes we can hold onto our old beliefs (a belief for example that reality is static, and that beliefs don't influence anything) out of unconscious fears of change, out of our need to be certain and do what we're comfortable with and we MUST understand that until we actually engage in doing something, creating new connections between nerve cells in our brains, that we create internal understandings of what the outcomes will be, in our heads, that aren't accurate and are far from real. That prevents us from engaging in the thought or action. I realized this at a gut level when I radically changed my beliefs, and as a result radically changed my life. I went from thinking reading couldn't offer me anything, that I was HORRIBLE at comprehension, that I didn't have the ability to write and that I would never try to become something other than the person I was at the time, a person living a life of quiet limitation, held back by the beliefs in my mind that were conditioned over time, to being the owner and creator of this website. How does that happen? I changed my beliefs, and thus changed my reality.
It wasn't until I learned about conditioning, how the human brain works, how we process information and the power of a gut level core belief that I actually reversed the hypnosis of my past, I changed the programming in my head consciously and as a result, I shifted the outcomes. You can do this too, it starts with a decision. A decision to stand guard in your mind and watch what gets in. The decision to come to the understanding that your beliefs control everything that happens in your life ( to a large degree ), and the decision to work towards, EVERYDAY, cultivating the kinds of beliefs that free you up to notice real opportunities and to take advantage of them in your life, the kinds of beliefs that fuel you with the power to act on what you want in your life and the kinds of beliefs that allow you to not just succumb to the momentum of the world, but to actually have a hand in creating every day of your life and ultimately, your destiny. Remember, your reality is what you believe at a gut level. Your reality is your programming. Install the right beliefs, and they too will habituate and manifest. I don't want this to sound like Hyperbole, because it isn't. This is my reality, this reality has given me incredible results, and this is the reality of many great successes I've studied, the best psychologists in the world and the leaders in human potential. But hey, that's just what we think, what do you think? I value your opinions, beliefs and experiences more than you know! Comment below, start the discussion!
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July 16, 2010 - 15:32
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This is right on, thanks for confirming my belief!
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